tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post5867996680708864890..comments2023-06-03T06:58:11.808-04:00Comments on Single Mothers by Choice (SMC): My Only Regret is that I Waited so LongSingle Mothers by Choice (SMC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/10524160238658120095noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post-72092745736731768932010-08-27T00:28:22.316-04:002010-08-27T00:28:22.316-04:00I just want to "ditto" what Leslie said:...I just want to "ditto" what Leslie said: "You are so, so lucky to have been able to conceive at 43 - woman who are thinkers should know that this is very, very uncommon". <br /><br />I remember when I began TTC at 39, I had read about many well-know women who had conceived in their 40's. I was lucky, and did conceive (twins) at 39. But, it wasn't until I became involved with SMC during my pregnancy that I found out just how many "older than average" women could not conceive at "advanced maternal age". That info doesn't make the media. Since then, I have been on a soapbox, telling women who want to conceive that time is not always on our side, and don't assume that conception is likely as we get into our late 30's and 40's. Unfortunately, biology may force us to make this decision sooner rather than later, because otherwise, the decision might be taken away from us.sandynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post-24144909359452500002010-08-22T00:07:13.685-04:002010-08-22T00:07:13.685-04:00Wow!!! I will be 41 in one week, am recovering thi...Wow!!! I will be 41 in one week, am recovering this week from fibroid surgery and hopefully going to try IUI in October. Can't believe it! I am in the process of "mourning" the life I thought I would have..the perfect love and husband, the dream home, but that is not what God had planned. Or let's be honest, I decided to make some really bad choices that may have altered God's plan for me. <br /><br />However, I am excited at what the future holds. I know that it's going to be the hardest thing I ever decide to do, but I know that the good times will out way everything else. <br /><br />One friend has already bought baby two gifts. I love it. My friends are so supportive. My mom, not so much. That hurts. <br /><br />I will continue to have faith and trust in God and myself. Maybe there is a reason this is happening to me at this time in my life.<br /><br />I will keep you all in my prayers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post-60853682665644636052010-08-18T18:21:27.649-04:002010-08-18T18:21:27.649-04:00Oh my gosh. Delivering on the bay bridge was one ...Oh my gosh. Delivering on the bay bridge was one of my biggest fears during pregnancy. Plus I had to get through the tunnel as well. Fortunately/unfortunately, I ended up getting induced, so made it into San Francisco with no traffic and no contractions.<br /><br />And for me too, a big regret is I didn't start my journey sooner as I'm now T42 at 41/42 and still no luck.MarcieVHnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post-23729901938573904362010-08-17T18:15:10.787-04:002010-08-17T18:15:10.787-04:00Love your column. You are so, so lucky to have bee...Love your column. You are so, so lucky to have been able to conceive at 43 - woman who are thinkers should know that this is very, very uncommon. I was 42.10 when I started trying and did seven tries, including two ivfs, but it didn't work. <br /><br />I was also 38 when I started thinking, but like you, met someone, thought it might work, and it didn't. <br /><br />I'm now 46.4, having gone through donor egg (couldn't carry to term and miscarried 3 times due to immune issues) and now have been on an adoption waiting list for almost a year.<br /><br />Yes, I wish I would have done this sooner as well - and I sure hope any readers will seriously consider this if they're thinkers. Don't wait.LeslieCnoreply@blogger.com