tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post3570915528656878086..comments2023-06-03T06:58:11.808-04:00Comments on Single Mothers by Choice (SMC): "If I Could Turn Back Time..."Single Mothers by Choice (SMC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/10524160238658120095noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post-88470239040814209972012-02-05T18:11:50.483-05:002012-02-05T18:11:50.483-05:00im in the same boat....40 and no prospects of mr.r...im in the same boat....40 and no prospects of mr.right coming along.....i fear everything! what if my biggest regret in life is that i never have a child? ive thought about all the scenarios of being a single mom...its seems that i just cant make a decision and im paralyzed by fear of the unknown....i will pray for help and guidance...your not alone...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post-1914453974292600682010-06-06T17:28:07.476-04:002010-06-06T17:28:07.476-04:00One other bit of advice...try not to worry too muc...One other bit of advice...try not to worry too much about choosing your donor. Spend a day and narrow it down to 6 profiles. What I did then was send the profiles to 3 of my closet friends and my close family....I sort of thought of it like...if I was introducing them to a partner or boyfriend they would offer an opinion so I included them in the process of choosing my donor. For me it helped and the majority chose the one that I was leaning towards which gave me confidence in my choice. <br />Good Luck and best wishes!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post-53660997301372708762010-06-06T17:22:45.044-04:002010-06-06T17:22:45.044-04:00Tracie just keep jumping through the hoops and &qu...Tracie just keep jumping through the hoops and "play ball"! I'm in the very same situation as you 40 and scared but I just try to keep moving. It's all we can do....and don't beat yourself up. You are doing the very best you can!<br />Best wishesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post-68595106263503773562010-05-26T21:02:46.839-04:002010-05-26T21:02:46.839-04:00I believe in the same urgency when it comes to ado...I believe in the same urgency when it comes to adoption - so many unpredicable delays are possible, rules change, more paperwork, it's like being pregnant without a due date. Of the many dozens of adoptive parents I know, none of us has ever said, "I wish I'd waited longer to adopt." <br /><br />Best of luck in TTC!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8434051313035946945.post-14301740314630413932010-05-26T20:23:05.673-04:002010-05-26T20:23:05.673-04:00Tracie, along with you, I am so frustrated with th...Tracie, along with you, I am so frustrated with the media that makes it seem as if having a child after 40 is no big deal. I was lucky and conceived at 39, but other friends were not so lucky. We only read about X, Y, or Z who conceived in her late 40's. No one writes about A, B, or C who wasn't able to conceive at 40. I have a "soapbox", and when I hear women who are 35 or older thinking that they have time to wait, I feel compelled to tell them that time may betray them, and don't wait if that is what they want. Good luck to you Tracie, and from my soapbox, I want to say, don't want to find the "perfect" donor. Most people don't put as much effort into finding a husband with the right genetic characteristics as we SMCs do in seeking the perfect donor. If being a mother is what you want, try to hasten the process, rather than seeking perfection. Best of luck. <br /><br />SandyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com